When a partner is showing signs of a drinking problem, at first, it’s natural to exhibit self-doubt. It’s truly difficult to come to such terms knowing someone may be an abuser of alcohol.  

Generally, when approaching a loved one about a possible alcohol problem, more times than not, a partner will deny it. Other times, the discussion may escalate, followed by casting blame.

If an argument arises from the topic of alcohol, this may very well be a sign that alcohol is a problem in the family.

Here are some signs which may offer guidance on whether a loved one has an alcohol addiction. Please note that a healthcare professional can and should make the final determination.

These signs are in no particular order - they are tools to help leverage knowledge on alcohol abuse.

Dishonesty

In order to avoid a red flag, partners who have an alcohol problem usually minimize how much they drink when discussing this issue.

Examples of this may include:

• An abuser will hide alcohol around different areas of the home such as the closet, garage, and various cabinets. These hiding areas will not be the norm for storing alcohol.


• Hiding empty bottles and not placing them in recycle bins. 


• Sneaking drinks or adding alcohol to a non-alcoholic beverage such as coffee, soda, or club soda.


• In order to hide the smell of alcohol on their breath, mints or gum will be consumed often. Yet, a hit of an alcohol scent may still linger.


• They drink to a point where physical and mental impairment is challenged.


• When asked if they have been drinking, they say “No” and/or become angry with the question.

 Changes In Drinking Habits

There is a noticeable increase in alcohol consumption.

Examples of this may include:

• They drink more in the evenings or at social gatherings.


• Drinking for longer stretches of time during the day, evening or weekend.


• They may start drinking earlier in the day.


• Frequent morning hangovers (headaches, nausea and/or vomiting).


• Becomes irritable, but after a drink, is less irritable; and, mood swings are also common.


• They come home with obvious signs of previously drinking.


• They are more willing to pick fights.

Other Characteristics To Watch Out For

Other behaviors may manifest from a partner who is beginning to abuse alcohol. They won’t appear all at once, but instead, trickle into their daily life.

• They would rather have a drink or remain in a “drink setting” rather than spending quality time with their partner.


• Libido has decreased.


• They exhibit forgetfulness regarding responsibilities and appointment times.


• They start to miss work or academic courses; and, their performance declines.


• They become easily fatigued during the day and want to sleep at odd hours.


• May frequently show up late for dinner or not show up at all with excuses.


• May blame their friend or business client who forced them to have a “drink” for their lateness.

If alcohol abuse is suspected, do seek the help of a medical professional for guidance and assistance.  There is enormous support not only for the addict to help them with a drinking problem, but for the whole family.